The holidays are a time for joy and connection, but for those living with hoarding, the season can bring added stress. The pressure to entertain, buy gifts, and even deal with inherited items can be overwhelming. This post offers practical advice to help manage these challenges and make the holidays a more pleasant experience for everyone. 

For those living with hoarding

• Plan and budget: Get a head start on your holiday calendar, gift lists, and budget to avoid last-minute decisions that can fuel compulsive behaviors.  Avoid impulse buys or buying extra items that aren’t necessary.
• Shop with intention: When you must shop, have a clear goal and a specific list. Remind yourself of your goals and avoid acquiring items just to feel better.
• Set boundaries: Decide which social events you can comfortably attend. It’s also okay to say “no” to avoid overwhelming situations.
• Declutter strategically: Set aside time for a focused decluttering session. Focus on one specific area, like a guest room or the entryway, to make a tangible difference and make space for guests.
• Invite people over: Hosting can be a great motivator to declutter and create a more welcoming space. Plan a small gathering with close friends or family to make the effort feel more rewarding. 

For loved ones of someone who hoards

• Set respectful boundaries: Work together to establish clear, respectful boundaries around possessions and behaviors. This could involve deciding which areas are off-limits for collecting new items.
• Address the problem together: If you live with someone who hoards, approach the issue as a team. Discuss the challenges and work together on a plan that respects your shared space.
• Know your limits: It’s important to know your own limits and practice self-care. If you feel overwhelmed, take a break and seek support for yourself.
• Offer support, not judgment: Instead of criticizing, offer practical help. For example, suggest a “one in, one out” rule for new purchases or offer to help with specific decluttering tasks. 

Remember

• The holidays are a time for connection, not just material things. Focus on spending quality time with loved ones.
• It’s okay to make mistakes or have imperfections. Be kind to yourself and others.
• Seeking professional help is a sign of strength. Don’t be afraid to seek help from support groups and professionals to challenge thoughts about hoarding and develop new coping strategies.
• Our compassionate team is ready to help with your hoarding situation.  We come with understanding, discretion, and respect.  Contact Pacific BioResponse Services today to learn more about how we can help with your hoarding situation, so you can focus more on the joy of season.